That moment when your sister Face Times and you look the same down to the side bun. WOAH.

My sister and I talk daily. It’s one of my favorite rituals. We gush over our capsule wardrobe favorites and talk about Chloe but mostly we go into the core of what’s happening in our lives. We leap into the deep stuff, the work, the truths that we’re learning and the intentions that we’re setting.

Lately, we have been having conversations on being seen. How we all really, really want to be seen. What that means. Who gets to see you. Who truly knows you. How to let people know you without feeling like you’re always sharing all your business. And on and on. As we were about to get off the phone she said something that I’ve been rolling around inside ever since… “Lace, it’s time to give people more access to you.” It was her voice but I felt like I was hearing from the angels. She is SO connected to her intuition and the divine.

To be seen and truly show who you are you have to know yourself or at least be in pursuit of knowing yourself. Seems pretty straight forward but oh so many women (and men) have forgotten who they truly are. At the heart of truth we are joy. Joy is our birthright. Sometimes in the chaos and noise of life we forget that. We reflex into weird striving energy trying to be something we’re not. I forget that. I reflex. But I knew exactly what she meant and it hit me as an all caps Y-E-S in my body. Time to get real.

The next day I tried it in the most logical place. I had a call with a potential client and I was totally me. I  was professional but playful. Knowledgeable but not judgey. I giggled. I asked her to be my friend (umm I don’t always do that). I was totally serious. Talking with her was an all caps Y-E-S in my body. I felt our connection immediately and I knew two things… 1. I can help her and 2. I want to. She’s now a client our energy together is still amazing. I feel so lifted after we get off the phone. She does too. I’d call it magic but I know it’s a result of living in my truth. It’s a result of listening to the Y-E-S and honoring it.

There are dear girls in my Togetherness Tuesday weekly drop-in coaching group that know me. Anyone I’ve been coaching for more than a phone call knows me but you guys… do you know me? If you didn’t before you will now. Ha! I’ve been set free with permission from my sis and I’m kind of on fire about it.

When I started my business (started seeing clients in 2009, graduated in 2010) I had all this striving energy and worried about doing it right. I said yes to everyone who wanted to work with me. I learned a lot the hard way. I used the worksheets that school gave me and followed the programs to the letter. Each year I got a bit more confidence and moved more into my own style. Less worksheets. Less by the book. More intuition. These days I know what I’m doing. I know how to let my intuition lead and I’m ok with sounding completely woo woo in the process. I apologize for it less and less (always a good sign). And you know it’s totally working….being me has helped more people be themselves and HEAL themselves. I have seen people heal their bodies of everything from candida to cancer.

There’s change unfolding as I type. I’m stepping into my ME-ness and every part of my 35 year old self feels the buzz of that energy. I’m owning my gifts and my personal power. Elizabeth Gilbert said that she used to look people in the eyes and give them the answer they wanted to hear instead of the answer that was in her heart. Hearing her say that gutted me. I did that too! I mastered that skill as a young child and it served my well into adulthood. No more. It’s all about speaking truth now. And you know, it’s not nearly as dramatic as that sounds. It’s actually the most subtle shift and you’d probably never notice if I hadn’t said anything. But maybe you would… we all feel each others energy all the time and the energy of truth or falsehood is weighty stuff.

May I give you some permission here?
- Follow Liz Gilbert’s advice and look inside before you answer folks.
- Don’t do anything unless it’s an all caps Y-E-S in your body.
- Be who you are. Everyone says that all the time but I’m telling you when you wring out every ounce of you-ness you will heal yourself and others.
- Get serious about who you are. No more shrinking. Own your brilliance! Claim your genius! It feels so GOOD!

And I’d like to give you an invitation too…
- If you’re not signed up for One Pot Wonders yet please do consider joining us! It’s quickly becoming this fabulous little truth portal for sharing my passion and love. Oh you’ll get some pretty amazing soup recipes too.
- If you could use a little encouragement Kayla (my sis) is doing Angel Readings. It’s totally woo woo and it’s amazing.

And if you need a little fuel while you ponder all of this here’s my latest green juice combo.

morning green juice

Juice this up and enjoy!

1 bunch kale
3 stalks celery
1 piece fennel
1 piece ginger
2 cucumbers
1/2 bunch cilantro
1 apple
1 lemon

Serves 2

With love,
Lacy

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I’ve fallen in crazy, serious love with capsule wardrobes. Crazy. Serious. Love.

If you frequent here you know that earlier this summer Cliff and I sold/ gave away most of our stuff, bought an older RV (why is it that someone born in 94 is not old but an RV from 94 is totally old?), renovated and are living, working and traveling in it!

I downsized my wardrobe for RV living but kept way too many shoes and two months in realized that I had a closet full of random pieces that didn’t make any sense together or on my body. I had a stack of jeans that were a too loose here, too tight there. Shirts that I thought I HAD to have from Target (when I was really just supposed to be on a toilet paper run). You’ve been there, right?

The night before we were leaving for our month on the road in September we parked the RV in a parking lot and spent the night at my mom’s house. Cliff met me there and brought clothes for me from the RV. It was a huge wake up call. He grabbed my clothes from my closet but they felt random to me and I wasn’t comfortable in them. HELLO! What an excellent measure. I realized right then and there that I want him to be able to go into my closet at ANY TIME and choose ANYTHING for me. AND I want to feel completely comfortable and confident in those clothes. Intention set!

Not long after I found this blog called Unfancy and it T R A N S F O R M E D my wardrobe and totally set me free! This post is, in fact a big thank you to Caroline for her blog and all she has inspired in me these past weeks! THANK YOU, Caroline! The first week I started my fall capsule you would have thought I just got engaged. It was THAT good! I’m not kidding when I tell you this whole capsule wardrobe thing has given me so much permission to live in my authenticity, to embrace the power that I have to create my day and my life and to own my confidence in new, completely happy-making ways! And you know I’m on board with anything that grows confidence in a sincere way.

Of course a capsule wardrobe is space friendly for living in an RV (I actually have extra room in our tiny closet now, wha!?). The space in the closet is nice but the space in my life has been the real magic! There’s so much more ease in my days. I get dressed without laboring over what to wear and I feel great all day long. So simple yet so profound.

I am not sure that I could have described my style to you before finding Unfancy. Our lifestyle is all about health, fun and flow and my style feels best mirroring that… so casual and comfortable is a no brainer but I also have this preppy side that loves a good button down and loafers. So I’m going with preppy, casual, comfortable for my style and so far it feels really good!

It doesn’t get more comfy and casual than a T- shirt and jeans! I wear this outfit on repeat every week. The jeans are my new fave of all time. I’ve been wearing them for a couple of weeks without washing (TMI?) and they still fit! I’ve started sizing down on jeans for that very reason. I was so tired of wearing jeans once post wash and then needing to belt them or wash them again.

Each day I try to wear something that feels totally me, a soul mate piece as my friend Lizzy always says. “Soul mate” pieces are those things that you see and they take your breath away! You are drawn to them, have to have them and they become a signature item in your collection! That was me and this necklace from Sundance. I adore it and it was a gift from my mom so that makes it doubly special.

I would love to know…

What are your soul mate pieces?

T-Shirt: Madewell

Jeans: Madewell

Shoes: Teysha (similar) This is a thoughtful company with a great cause! Love that.

Necklace (long with charms): Sundance

Necklace (short with stone): Crystal Works (They don’t sell online but you can order over the phone. I chose this one because I was drawn to it and wouldn’t you know it’s to help with the throat.)

With capsule love,
Lacy

p.s. These are NOT affiliate links. I’m sharing a new love that is part of my healthy, happy life. My hope is that you’ll find a bit of permission in here to find your style. To simplify your wardrobe and wear what feels really, truly like you! The better you feel the more frequently you’ll eat foods that also make you feel good and you’ll think kinder thoughts about yourself. It is all beautifully woven together. If you need capsule info or want to create your own wardrobe capsule I recommend you visit Unfancy. She has super duper advice.

The words Self Care get tossed around a lot these days. Do you know what Self Care is? Are you practicing it? What’s your favorite way to practice? Have you made it a priority in your life? Earlier this week I had not one but three people ask me to share my self care routine and practices. I try to honor and listen to those signs so I thought I’d share it here as well!

Self care has been a journey for me and it’s something I still really work on. You know how getting sick is your sign to SLOW DOWN and take better care of you? Yeah. Self care started off like that in my life. I learned the hard way at first via overwhelm and burn out. Raise your hand if you’re a recovering people pleaser too!

self care definationIt’s been years of systematic changes in my work and lifestyle to take better care of me. Learning the hard practice of saying NO has been key. Letting go of self judgement and stories around slowing down has been huge too. I used to think busy meant successful and that somehow working all the time made me more worthy of success. Those were some BIG stories that 1) weren’t serving me and 2) just aren’t true. Allowing myself to lay down if I need it or to sit in quiet and meditate have been massive shifts in my life. These days my self care has been taking a turn to mirror my food life… it’s all about healing, what feels good and prevention.

Here’s what I’ve laid out for myself. As you read notice what resonates with you and what makes you feel light. Perhaps those are the practices to try on, modify and put to work in your self care routines.

FUN:

Weekly I schedule 1 date with myself reserved for fun. I take myself to the movies. I swim. I take myself to lunch or for a drive. I do whatever feels really good in my body. During that time I UNPLUG from all technology (A MUST). Some weeks it’s just an hour. Others it’s an entire day. It all depends on what I’m feeling that I need. If I’m super busy and the week is wearing on me then I take m o r e time for myself to go and remember what fun is. I block off the time in my calendar and treat it like a client appointment. That means I always show up! Cliff always says, “no one is shooting at us” and I take it to heart. He’s right. This is not a life or death situation. It’s my life and I get to choose how to LIVE IT each moment of each day and the more fun the better!

WATER + BREAKFAST:

I drink water daily upon waking. And eat within an hour of waking. So key. On days when I allow myself to get sucked into technology too quickly I can easily skip breakfast or wait way too long to eat and I feel it. After all this time I’m still in awe that I’m the boss of my food life and however I feel is a direct reflection of how well I did or did not prioritize taking care of my needs.

EATING CUT OFF:

I’ve recently added no eating after 6 or 7 at night. So far that’s feeling really good. I’m not crazy strict about it… if we go to dinner I enjoy dinner without looking at the clock. I’d say at the moment I’m sticking to it a good 5 or 6 days a week. The circadian rhythm of our bodies dictates that we are to eat when the sun is out and rest when the moon is out. Practicing an eating cut off time is my way of trying to honor that a little more each day. Eating late at night is a sure fire way to pack on lb’s and as a recovering sugar addict/ emotional eater night time eating was a particularly tender time for me. You know you better than anyone… set some safe boundaries for yourself within your routines and honor them.

KEEP IT FRESH + GREEN:

I make sure to eat something green everyday. A green juice, a green smoothie, steamed veggies, salad… doesn’t matter I just make sure to get in green veggies. I tell every single one of my clients about the importance of greens and anyone who knows me knows that veggies are way more than just a food preference… it’s a lifestyle. My lifestyle. If I’m traveling and can’t access greens like usual I use a green powder in the mornings with breakfast. I also try to eat 50% + of my daily food raw to invite the most nutrients possible into my body. That’s part of why I love green juices and green smoothies so much.

GO WITHIN:

Creating my day is always the goal. The way to create your day is through meditation. When I approach meditation from a creation stand point knowing that it has the power to change my day and my life I show up every time without fail. It’s pretty hard to argue with facts like these. When I forget how rich and deep meditation is I remember to keep it on the list because it’s “good for me” and honestly some weeks that is enough. This week has been exceptional, so far I’ve meditated everyday and I’m aiming to do a long one this afternoon. Last week I think I meditated 3x so it definitely ebbs and flows over here. Some days are 10 minutes via a short and sweet Deepak Chopra mediation. Others are long up to an hour or just over via a Joe Dispenza mediation. I almost always use a guided meditation. I’d say about 1 out of every 10 times I will sit and meditate on my breath alone in silence. I don’t have any rules on guided or not… I just go with what feels good and most often I go with how much time I want to spend.

MOVEMENT + REST:

I live in an RV and happily work from home. I sit on my booty in a small space most of the day. No doubt about it that’s a sedentary lifestyle. Lately I’m light on movement and heavy on rest at the urging (and near begging) of my Ayurvedic doc and team of healers. It’s been a tough adjustment for me to SLOW DOWN and follow the advice to not “exert” myself. I run/walk a few times a week. I have also been swimming when the mood strikes (I’ve been twice this week). Lately I’m feeling the calling back to yoga so it’s me and my yoga mat it the RV which is pretty comical actually.

Giving myself permission to nap and rest has been earth shattering. I’m not kidding I used to be an ALL GO, ALL THE TIME kind of gal. The more work I do on healing my body the more I can feel the subtle calls from within. When I start to feel a little frayed, weak or small I go lay down for a bit. Naps are an amazing reset button and immune booster.

HEALING PRACTICES:

Daily I wake and take all my Ayurvedic herbs to support the healing of my body. I’m over half way through 30 days of daily sesame oil enemas (TMI? Sorry.) to help lubricate and restore health to my internal body. The Ayurveda perspective on Tracheal Stenosis is that we have one long tube from mouth to anus and mine is dried out so… I’m taking oil on both ends and also oiling my skin. Oil-a-palooza over here and I have to tell you the oil enemas though not the most comfortable thing I’ve ever experienced feel like they are totally working.

I share all this to tell you that healing is an all in endeavor. If you’re negotiating some kind of sickness or imbalance in your body it can be all consuming. It’s been really soothing to add these practices to my daily rituals. I do each from a place of gratitude that each day I get to take actions with a pure intention of easy breathing and believing in healing possibility. My sister reminds me to ask the Universe to wow me in regards to my health. Isn’t that a beautiful image to think of! How many times have you been in awe of something that unfolded before you without you having to effort in that direction? Just this past weekend I won tickets to a truly transformational Oprah weekend and I didn’t even register to win. My Aunt registered me. I was WOW-ed for sure and so now I ask the Universe to wow me in regards to my healthy and healed body.

SEEK KNOWLEDGE:

Daily I read something that I’m trying to learn. It’s usually really quick around 5 – 10 minutes.

SAY WHAT YOU NEED:

I tell Cliff what’s happening with me daily. Turns out he’s not a mind reader so it’s helpful for him to know what I’m negotiating. I ask for what I need… some days it’s for him to read/ edit something I’ve written, some days it’s help rubbing oil all over me as part of my healing ritual, some days it’s for some space to move through something I’m working on. That practice adds to the ease of our relationship and helps us both feel really supported.

GET BAREFOOT:

The sun + earths energy are crucial for vibrant health. I spend time barefoot in the grass or with my hands in the dirt weekly. Ideally we’d come into contact with the earth daily. I joke (but I’m totally serious) that one day when we have a yard again I want a dirt and sand garden where I can go lay naked with the sun on my face. This is the part where my dad thinks I’ve totally lost my mind (ha!) but it’s so elemental to be in contact with our earth! I think it’s one of the reasons why so many of us love the beach. It’s one of the rare times we are barefoot and covered in sand! When is the last time you physically touched the earth?

I hope you found one or a few things that are resonating in you. Remember that just like food self care is completely individual. While I’m over here taking it easy and embracing naps you may need to run as hard and as fast as you can! There are some things, too, like saying what you need and taking yourself on a weekly date that I think we could all benefit from.

To caring for your beautiful self in the way that only you can!
Lacy

P.s. Be sure to join me for One Pot Wonders! It’s 3 months of soup-a-week recipes for $28! It’s going to be souper. ;) Enroll here.

I’m so tempted to name this a gingerbread smoothie but I’m not a fan of naming #vegan things after their dairy counterparts. Soooo I’ll call it a Pumpkin Ginger Green Smoothie instead. It looks like pea soup all blended up BUT it tastes like spiced fall goodness.

If you love ginger this one is for you! And if your gut needs balancing ginger is your new bestie.

You’ll need:

1 cup almond milk
1/2 cup pumpkin puree
1 handful greens
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp all spice
1/2 inch piece fresh ginger (peeled) You can use less if you’re still getting used to ginger.
3 medjool dates (pits removed)
1 tbsp chia seeds
1 frozen banana
1 tsp vanilla extract

I used a baby kale/ spinach blend. If you’re new to this whole #greensmoothie thing go for spinach, the flavor is light so you won’t taste the greens in your smoothie.

Enjoy!
Lacy

I received an email from a dear girl who is in the midst of transition and I saw so much of my story in her words. She went to a yoga class, and another and another. She feel madly and deeply in love with the practice and the way her body felt fully engaged in the present moment of each pose. She paid lots of money for proper schooling and credentials. She became a certified yoga teacher. She loved teaching.

And now that her shiny new website is built and ready to roll out into the world it’s become unavoidably clear that it’s time to move on. Disappointment. Guilt. So many feelings are colliding all at once. Then the justification that she spent the money on the site… shouldn’t she see it through?

I’m here to say permission granted to change course in the very moment that you know it’s time. Seriously. We all do that thing over money from time-to-time. You spend “good” money on something really big and then there’s that moment of pause… you use the money as a justification to keep going even though every fiber of your being is saying MOVE ON RIGHT NOW!

Honoring your intuition is sacred ground. Do it. At all cost. Some days it may be something really big like NOT publishing the site. Others is may be seemingly small like not finishing a book. It’s your life and you get to live it however you want. Exercise that beautiful freedom.

Letting it go (whatever it is) can be excruciating and at the same time completely necessary. It is ok that something (or someone) once filled you up body and soul and then it was time to move on. I spent my 20′s trying to make a living out of things I loved. Yoga. Making Scrapbooks. Creating herbal products. etc. etc. etc. I changed paths often and with a great deal of struggle. I wish someone had said that it’s O.K. to keep going and change course when you know it’s time. Mid way through my 30′s I’m seeing how it’s all been a part of the journey that is still very much in motion. I can only image the clarity that the 40′s will bring.

Release the guilt, dear girl. Forgive yourself. Often. You showed up, burned brightly and when the time was right you let it go. That’s practicing yoga off the mat. That’s listening to your sacred voice and it’s always worth it no matter how much it cost to get there.

Clear space so that your what next can peek through and wink at you. Clear space… In your body. In your closet. In your kitchen cabinets. In your email inbox. Let go of the things (or people) that are ready to move on and take your next step in the direction that feels light and joyous.

I love you. You’ve got this.
Lacy

P.s. One Pot Wonders is enrolling now! It’s $28 for THREE MONTHS of soup recipes! More info here.

Click here for the full recipe for Dairy Free Cream of Parsnip Soup. Image by Anne Sage.

There’s something about a pot of soup on the stove. The warmth. The simplicity. It feels like love in the kitchen and in my belly. It’s from that love and ease that I’m bringing you One Pot Wonders, a season of soups! It’s a 3 month email subscription. I have been in the kitchen creating and recipe testing and I am SO excited to share these soups with you!

Once a week for November, December + January you’ll receive an email from me with a delicious and easy to prepare soup recipe! You’ll receive a full shopping list and information on why you need those particular foods in your life!

Think delicious warm easy to make soups with a dose of easy to digest nutrition information and things to consider as you move through your week. Your weekly recipe + shopping list will arrive on Fridays just in time for weekend shopping.

Here are a few of the delicious soups you can look forward to: Carrot Ginger, Curried Lentil, Hearty Bean Chili, Mushroom Quinoa, Potato Leek, Spiced Butternut Squash and many more! There will be 13 weekly emails in total. You’ll receive your first email on November 7th and your last email on January 30th. No more dinner rut! Yay!

A season of ease in your kitchen and warmth in your belly is $28! Yeap. $28.

Enroll here.

Soups on!
Lacy

P.s. It’s going to be the complete opposite of this. ha!

This me at one of our latest stops in Marfa, Texas. That town is AMAZING. It’s the best night sky I’ve seen in as long as I can remember and the vibe there is so laid back. We’ll definitely be back.

In my work I give a lot of permission. It’s one of my favorite things to do. I give myself permission and ask my sister and husband to give me permission when I am needing it too. There’s something about hearing it, feeling it, taking it into your being that allows for change. Here are a few permissions I’ve been giving out lately. I thought you might like them too. I hope one or many are heart zingers for you.

- BE who you are.
- Don’t grow up so much as grow into your best self.
- When you speak about what you believe do so from your own experience. Sharing your experience feels so loving.
- Take photos of things that inspire you. Share them. Don’t worry about taking the perfect photo or looking a certain way. And if you’re on Instagram come say hi, I’m @lacylike. It’s still my very favorite internet community.
- Eat food that makes you feel good in your belly. And proud. (hint: Twinkies are not a pride or health inducing food)
- Stop buying home goods for a minute and start buying clothes that make you feel amazing. Seriously… You’ll spend $3o on a candle at Anthro but not a new shirt that is going to make your eyes pop. Doooooo it already!
- Make a new friend. On the internet or in real life.
- Don’t buy it unless you really love it.
- Call someone you love everyday. Not a text. CALL. They may cry happy tears and let you know. Or you may never know how you added to their day. Either way it’s always worth it.
- Lay in the grass. Walk around barefoot. Let the sun shine on your face.
- Challenge what healthy means to you. Fiercely. Remember we are all so different and your body knows what it needs. Create some space for it to speak to you and then diligently listen. If you don’t know how, ask for help.
- Get rid of something everyday for a month. See what opens up inside of you.
- Go to happy hour and don’t drink booze. The happy hour police are not going to get you. Or better yet skip happy hour and go for a walk with your bestie.
- Trade up one of your beauty products for something made thoughtfully and organically. What you put on your skin soaks into your cells… choose something chemical free. Your cells want to shine, baby!
- Congratulate yourself often. Washed the dishes? Tell yourself that you are the best dishwasher ever! Cleaned the clothes but didn’t quite get to folding them? Tell yourself that’s the most beautiful pile of clean fabrics you’ve ever seen! See how fun + uplifting it can be?

Permission granted,
Lacy

Dear beautiful soul,

I’m writing to you from bed. Ned’s curled up on Cliff’s pillow next to me. Cliff is 7 days into a water fast. I’m deep in an Ayurvedic cleanse that is challenging and changing me and I’m thinking of you. I’ve been wanting to write you this letter for a long, long time.

These last few weeks have been big and heavy and full. One client is mourning the loss of her dear son who left too soon. Another celebrated her birthday and went through the inevitable life inventory that comes with another passing year. Another has moved from one coast to the other and is negotiating a big, new, scary, exciting city where she knows no one. Another has stopped binging and purging for the first time in her adult life. Another has finally, finally thrown away her “fat” clothes. I could go on and on. Like I said, Big. Heavy. Full.

In the midst of all that change, of all those victories and struggles each has a story of food just like you do. They are stories of donuts or cake or coffee drinks with extra whipped cream. Trigger foods. Comfort foods. Shame. Sadness. Struggle. Try and try again. Pants that fit too tight, arms or thighs or you-name-it that’s too fat. That pokes fun at you when you pass the mirror.

Beloved, I’m calling it… enough is enough. It’s time to love ourselves exactly where we are. To honor that we are each living so bravely. That we are unapologetic works in progress. That healing is underway. It’s time to reprogram those old tapes and tales of self-loathing. We are who we are because of our suffering, our experiences, our challenges and perceived failures. We are a tribe, we are one and it’s time to come together.

Ready for the truth? You’ve called this extra weight (physical and emotional) into your life for a reason. It will go when you do the work to release it. I don’t believe in weight loss and I don’t want you to believe in it either. I want you to embrace weight release because when it goes it’s never coming back! You feel me? You lose things you want to find again like your keys! You let go of things you’re complete with, that you never need to see or experience again.

It’s time to start living in alignment with your desires. Over and over again. It’s a million tiny decisions in the direction of your best life. I’m begging you, inviting you and cheering for you! Please embody the beauty that you are. Begin to see yourself with love. With conscious compassion.

It’s time. It’s time to start living from passion and can do instead of discipline and will power. Enthusiasm is your friend. An open heart is your ticket. Willingness will lead the way.

I know that you’re in need of regular and real support. Right? Right! Could you use some practical tools to bring awareness and gain knowledge?

Are you ready to learn what’s possible? To transcend all those stories you’ve been telling yourself? Sure you know the basics. You’re totally in touch with what’s healthy and what you “should” be doing. You know that veggies are good for you and cake isn’t but do you know how to listen to your body? Do you know how to end the struggle? I’d like to show you how.

You’ve mastered what needs to be removed from your diet like soda and chips but do you know what you need to add in? And have you been able to put the chips down? Ready to? Are you wondering what vitamins you really need to be taking? And what’s the deal with super foods? Are you ready to learn how to allow your intuition to lead when it comes to all things food and life?

It’s time to expand your repertoire. It’s time to get comfy in your body and in your kitchen. It’s time to stop hating grocery shopping and your belly. Dear one, it’s definitely time to stop saying nasty things to that person staring back at you in the mirror! This is going to be the education of your life. This is all the stuff we really should have learned as a child and cemented in our formative years.

It’s time.
To believe in you.
To invest in you.
To do the most worthy work of your life.
To practice.
To grow.
It’s time to Love U.

This is THE COURSE that has been waiting to be born and my heart is saying it’s time. If you’re ready to join me in the most worthy education of your life you can sign up for the wait list and more information here.

It’s called Love University.
And this letter is your invitation to enroll in the experience of a lifetime.
You’re going to get a Bachelors degree in Love and it’s going to be beyond amazing.

The Freshman semester begins Winter 2014.

I love you. I believe in you. I can’t wait to share this with you.
Lacy

P.s. Join the wait list here.

We’re over a week into the journey and it feels like time to sit and write. So much has happened in seven days. So many states covered, so many new sights experienced, so many shifts.

road cactusI love watching the landscape change. I took this for my Mema <3 So many sights on the road remind me of my loved ones. I feel like I’m carrying you all with me.

rv travelI’m getting pretty good at making tea while we’re driving. We stopped at a gas station in the middle of nowhere. No published prices because why bother when there’s no competition for 100 miles. It’s the most we’ve paid for gas so far. Note to self:: get gas in big towns.

It’s interesting to set out on an intentional healing journey. To know that come what may we are in this RV and on the road to live our lives, have fun and welcome healing at every turn. There was a comment on one of my instagram photos that said “I wish I could run away like that.” And it struck me as a gift in perspective… we’re not running away from anything. We’re running towards our life, our happiness, our whole health. We’re so sure of this truth and it feels really good.

For months I’ve not been able to see past September, still can’t. All I know for sure is that this is the month that our what next is revealed. We set out on Thursday evening and got a full hour down the road before the back of the RV filled with smoke and we had to pull over and sleep for the night without a/c in a grocery store parking lot. Full system shut down.

A journey is full of unexpected experiences around ever turn. I think that’s actually in the definition somewhere! I figure there’s bound to be a few in the category of our home is also our car and therefore requires a bit of maintenance to keep it all working. Right? Right!

this isn't goodsafer hereWe got something called Feliway to help Ned acclimate to the RV and despite being completely unamused when we are in motion it seems to be helping with his confidence.

After the black plume of smoke filled our bedroom full of white linens we sat with each other. We ran through a few scenarios and faced some serious fears about the journey ahead and our financial means to get there. It was quite possible that in one RV repair event we’d spend everything we had for the entire trip which would land us an hour down the road back home. That simply wasn’t an option for us. We knew we had to see this journey through so we decided it would be and we sent love to our home that is also our car.  We went to bed that night laying as far apart as possible hot, sticky-sweaty and on top of the covers with parking lot lights blazing into our open windows. After several phone calls and help the next day we were back on the road. Want to know the miracle part? They never did find anything wrong with the brakes. All told it was several hundred dollars (and a case of Budweiser to the helper at Dale’s) instead of several thousand. Miracle. Total miracle.

thanks dalejuice to goI made juice for the road and it turned out to be a lifesaver those first few days. Cantaloupe, kiwi, orange, lime. Make it! It’s GOOD!

Junction texasWe had our giant green juice and impromptu photo shoot the second day on a campground picnic table in Junction, Tx. (( For those wondering, I’m holding the phone out and we used the GorillaCam app on timer. We did the blast and took a bunch of picts, this one was the cutest (and I love it). ))

this road.

Somewhere on the road in New Mexico we really hit our groove. It was 65 degrees out and glorious. In the middle of who-knows-where New Mexico we stopped on the side of the road. I ran around taking pictures and standing in the middle of the desolate and empty road yelling, “THIS IS SO PRETTY! THIS IS SO FUN!”

first time we filled the tankThe first time we filled the entire tank! 101 gallons!

so happy in the woodsThe wilderness is one of his happy places! Firewood gathering in Black Canyon Ntl Park, NM

A Facebook post of recommendations (note to self:: ask for recommendations more often, they’re amazing) lead to the two most fun water experiences we’ve had in a long time. We’d just been having a conversation about Cliff’s love of flying. I was wondering… what do I love as much as he loves flying? The answer—– w a t e r. Being in the water. Showers are my happy place. Steam rooms feel like a hug. Soaking is pure bliss. And so we ventured to Ten Thousand Waves and we soaked together with other naked bodies under the Santa Fe sun.

I’m struck by how natural it is to be naked with strangers. I’m not a nudist though I’m super comfy in my skin and certainly don’t shy away from an occasion to be in my birthday suit. I observed myself sitting in the tubs with these other bodies. Bright shiny souls in human form getting all pruny together. I couldn’t help but see us all as little kids running around with naked bums playing in the water just like my sweet two year old niece Chloe and her friends do every weekend at birthday parties.

As Cliff was laying in the sun (one of his very favorite things) I got back in my robe and went down to sit in the meditation room. I resisted at first. Did I really want to meditate when I could take a third shower? I decided —yes— time to meditate. As I sat there listening to soothy music waves of sadness washed over me and puddled at my trachea and around my heart. It was so much it had to be put into smaller (metaphorical) containers and made ready to leave my body. It wasn’t a full on release as I’ve sometimes experienced in meditation. It was an elephant sized mass of sadness overtaking me and the room. It was dark and sticky and was broken apart by my breath and willingness to sit there with it. To feel it. To observe it.

When I opened my eyes and Cliff was sitting nearby in the foot soaking area. I joined him without a word. We sat together and looked at the Koi pond and water fall and smiled.

ojo calente

A full day later we visited Ojo Calente, another of the recommendations. We slathered ourselves in mud and laid in the sun to let it dry all that sadness started to move from me. You know how I know… I was having a blast. I went from all out exuberant joy throwing mud everywhere to laying still waiting for it to dry smiling at everyone walking past. There was what felt like a moment in the shadow of the joy, this stillness came in and with it I felt the sadness start to go.

The largest release came when we went into the iron pool. There are several different pools based on what minerals are present. Iron felt best in my body. The floor was natural pebbles and the water bubbled up from them. I felt still but playful in that pool. And then we went back to the mud one more time… and it was done. I keep hearing that dear woman’s voice in my head, “playfulness will heal the wound” and I’ll be damned if she’s not completely spot on. The more fun we have the more freedom I feel and the easier it is for me to breathe.

mud bathsIt was a no phone zone but I was so thankful to see a rule breaker there who happily took our photo and texted it to me! I love a rule breaker, don’t you! That suit top used to be white.

The next day I felt really quiet. Deeply quiet.

I’ve been observing, experiencing and though I would still really love a solid nights rest, I am happy. There’s been no feeling of “are we healed yet” no force, no struggle, no expectation. Just fun. We wake up each day and decide where we will go next. Literally on the spot. Sometimes we start driving, map out a few routes via the trusty iPhone and then decide. And that feels just right.

Over and out from the road,
Lacy

There’s something about a bare face.

Ease.
Wash and wear.
The natural glow.
The light in your eyes.
The story it tells… the scar on my neck from trachea surgery. The crown on my front tooth from that time I tripped over a rock in a jump rope race in elementary school and the boy I had a crush on picked up me and my tooth and took us to the nurse.

So many times I’ve asked/ told Cliff before we go out… “I’m not going to wear make up, K?” His response is always some version of “You’re so beautiful, you don’t need make up!” And I believe him.

I took this #TBT photo with my sister early one Sunday morning as we were waiting for the Farmers Market to open. This is what we look like when we are together. It’s always slightly frizzy curls, fresh faces and some version of stretchy pants + tank tops. This IS us. We talk about who we are, what we’re creating and share our perspective. Perspective is one of our super powers.

Today I’m wondering… what if we all just were who we are. What if bare faces was code for THIS IS ME and I LOVE ME. Yes! That’s my kind of code. Tag the people in your life that will totally get this. Tag your bare face selfies #campaignforconfidence

I see you.
I celebrate you.
I love you and your bare face!
Lacy